Category: Health and Wellness
Hi, i've suffered depression for nearly 2 years now, some days i think i'm really better, but recently i've been feeling ill, tired and not wanting to do anything again, even getting out of bed's a struggle. i do things to relax, like taking a bath, listening to music and chatting. just wondered if anyone else has this, i'm really scared, i don't want to go back to the stage i was before and also, does anyone know of any books that may help with this? don't know if i mentioned, but i am on tablets for it.
Hi Kay, I've suffered on and off now for 10 years. I go through times when I think I'm better and then it gets worse again. For the last 4 or 5 months I've been pretty bad, have tried a lot of different meds over the years with no real results, currently see a counselor, and have just been refered to a psych, because my doctor finally accepts he doesn't know what else to do. I like you, often struggle to get up in the morning, have no interest in a lot of the things I'd usually enjoy, often don't even have the energy to talk to people, and wish I could just hide. You certainly aren't alone, though I don't know of any books that would help. I just hope that having shared my own feelings has maybe helped you see that there are more of us around who suffer this way.
i don't think there're any books that can help with it honestly. you've just gotta realize that you do have a purpose in the world, and try to think positive thoughts, and hopefully, with time, things'll get better. best of luck, and if you ever need to talk, i'm here.
Hi Kay, It's Jen. I've suffered depression in spurts on and off all through my life. I'm up and down like a jack-in-a-box most of the time, and the worst of it is, it's my family that causes it. Why do you think i'm shut away in this room on my PC all the bleeding time now? I don't see how a doctor or Psych could help me either. It's all because of the area I have to live in till I get a house or flat of my own wherever I want to live and I don't have enough money for it, which I'm constantly telling mum, It's the people I live with, especially mum because all my family do is talk about jobs, Cornwall, building, picture galleries and gardening and worst of all, there's no-one of my age group who'd just come over to me in a pub, just to say "hellow" and start a conversation with me or vice verser if I'm with a totally embarrassing bunch of freaks like my family. Of course, my friends won't see them that way as they're only staying with me for up to a week at a time and not permanently like I have to. i know I have to stick it out, I know I can't just turn up at a mate's with my trolley bag packed and my sleeping bag strapped to it, like I've been so tempted to do to get me out of this carzie but it's just so, so fucking difficult. I might seem chirpy and happy some days, but I sort of have to act that way for them to even take any notice of me or talk to me. I also hide in my room with my DVDs, Videos, talking books, Hi-fi and Classical and RMB CDs, just to get the saddest people on the planet out of my fucking hair.
awwww. thanks for sharing thoughts, i went to a counsellor once, but i just felt so alone, sitting there with this stranger i didn't honestly know from adam. i tried a few sessions, but came out of it having not really helped me any.
Sheelob I would definately seek medical attention if you are struggling to get out of bed pal then books are not the answer, you need support and encouragement, and for what its worth, I've tried the books out of desperation and found them to be very patronising. I've fought depression for 16 years and its the hardest climb I've ever attempted, so if you want to talk don't hesitate. We will support you, but I really think you need to see a counsellor, who can perhaps prescribe better medication, because some anti depressants can cause the very symptoms they are meant to alleviate.
Kay. If you go to a counsellor, for a start, you need to go because you want help and you want to be there. If you don't find that it's helping, say after a month or so, and you still want to talk, try changing counsellors. Noone can help you unless you want them too, and if you're not with the right person, they'll never be able to help you. It is up to you in the end todecide if you would ever want to change your medication. Talk it through with your doctor and see what he or she thinks. Don't go on the advice of others too much if you can help it. There are many different types of depression and they can be triggered for many different reasons and have many different causes. There may be people who have the same symptoms as you, myself being one of them, but that doesnt' mean that we have the same kind of depression. Likewise, what works for me, may not work for you. As far as other people's advice on what you can do for yourself, aside from therapy of any form or medication, if you feel you want to try things, do it, but never assume that it'll work because ti does for other people. I, initially, went to counselling because it helped other people and, first time around, it didnt' help me much at all. There is a right time for everything, you just need to come to that right time. For me, keeping busy and occupied helps me with my depression. I am on medication which is a great help, but even having it, if I do nothin with my day, I may as well not be taking it for all the good it does on it's own. I find it difficult to get up in the mornings. If I dont' have something to get up for, sometimes I just won't, and that's when I have my bad days, because I have no goals. Now that I'm living on my own, I have to get up, if for nothing else, to feed the dog. Then, I have to cook for myself, and tidy up. Borring, yet necessary. I may find it hard to start doing it, but once I have, it leaves me with a sense of satisfaction and achievement. Like others have said here, if you ever need to talk, you know where I am, and even if you ever want to get away, you know where I am. It sounds liek rubbish, but take every day at a time. At the same time, try and plan ahead. It might help. I find that if I plan things ahead for say, the next week, I have something to look forward too. It's a thought to be getting on with at least. Take care Hun. Dan xx
hi kay i no exactly how you feel counsilling helped me for a while i think its worth a try again. there are some good websites around.
am hear if you ever need to talk
Kay, just like what Danielle have said, you go for Counceling is ask for help. just take it this way, a friend who can share who can give you advice and who can help you voer come your problem. don't treat her or him as a stranger, take it as a friend who willingly to share as a closest friend, who's closer than anyone, and give your trust on her/him. if you don't really find the current councelor is suitable for you, try to get a new one. but yet, always remember that, you must take the very first move to over come depression. it is not easy, but it isn't as tough as we thought. keep yourself relax and let yourself few with things to do. don't over think on things and take things easy. if you do find that talking to a councelor is very hard for you, try to get someone who you think you can really share your problem with, and talk to that person. remember that, nothing is impossible, but everything need time.
Girl, i'm sure you can over come it
Also, sometimes I find writing down how i feel and what's going on in my head helps. you don't have to show it to anyone, but it is a well-known outlet for many.
i find that writing helps me as well i used to write all my feelings down then give them to my counsillor them we used to talk through them after she had read it maybe you could try that
Hi Kay, I know some what what your going through it is scarey, I've even attimpted suicide so I know how far it can go and it's really hard to stop being depressed. I've tried canstlers and it didn't work for me at all but if you think it will try that. But just so you know your not the only one out there feeling this way
sierra
awwww thanks for all the posts, hehee i write things down too, i usually private enter them in my journal, so nobody can see them, i may try the counselling again and write things down this time for them to read and hopefully get a good counsellor.
good luck kay hope it works out am thinking of you huggles
Hi, I'm definitely not an expert when it comes to this topic.
However, my sister suffers from depression, my wife recovered from it a year or so ago, and, my dad also suffered from depression when I was at university.
I truly think that depression is one of the most underestimated medical condissions.
There are a few things that were helpful for my wife especially, and if you will bare with me, I want to share it with you.
Remember though that this is not the ultimate solution, but, maybe one of the things I say, might help some of you.
Firstly, it's okay to feel down when you do feel down.
Also, a good crying session sometimes does wonders, even if you are a man.
I'm a grown up man, and sometimes even I need to shed the odd tear or 2 to get my mind cleaner and clearer, and get rid of the crap baggage I'm carrying with me.
Another thing you could do, and I think it has been mentioned, is to set yourself some short term goals.
Try to find things, be it small or not, that you can look forward to, even if it's the petty things such as going on the internet and chatting with some remote friends.
Also, try to be okay with who you are.
I believe that, for everyone of us on this Earth, there is friends, not necessary lovers, but people who believe in us, who care about us, and for whom we matter.
So, it's important to be okay and at ease with who you are.
One more thing: If you are receiving councilling and you feel that you're not getting any further than what you are, get another councillor.
It's your privillage I believe.
But it's very important that you are okay with what and who you are, that you focus on some of your good aspects.
Yes, I realise that I'm talking very easily now, and that some of you are probably thinking "what the hell does he know".
Well, as I said earlier, I am no councillor.
All I know about this topic, experience taught me.
Anyway, I hope that some of the things I said, proved helpful to some of you.
And if you feel like it, hit me up on here or anywhere else and say hi.
I may not have answers for you, but, I have patience and a large listening capacity. lol
Take care all.
awww thanks, i hope your wife is better now, or getting there, i've started with the short goals thing and it's helping me, as i think about a goal i've set myself. haven't gone for another counsellor as yet, as i'm doing okay on this thing at the mojment, thanks for the tips.
Hey there, I'm going to school for nursing and psychology, so I actualy do see lots of people going through the same thing that you are. You said that you were on medication? Have you lost or gained any weight lately (like more than 5 pounds) because that loss/gain can alter your blood volume, and thus the amount of medication in your blood. I've gone through it myself, use to take lots of meds, and got damn close to suicide, but I think the thing that helped me most was the counseling. I tried several before one actualy helped me. It's not easy, but so long as you want to get better, and it sounds like you do, you definetly will! Good luck!
suffer from this also. when I feel this way which is usually on a day to day basis I usually listen to R&NB, read books, or be alone just finding things to do. This issue is something that can't be ignored and I agree with chelsie there is no real book that can help a person deal with it.
i must say that ever sence i was 16 i've been dealing with it also. it's not funny! i've tried to do the unthinkible so many times, striking myself in the hed with a baseball bat 16 times, cutting off my breathing with a pare of pliers, stabs from raizer blades, even tried to give myself a concussion. i'm seaking counseling also, it's helping, plus i'm on medacation, but let me say that ever sence that reck i was in i've been more angrier sence i know i almost could have died! if you would like to talk to me please let me know.
oh, that is very depressing.
Luckilly, i don't have that problem.
but, i was about to enter this stage when i was in the eighth grade.
because one teacher put me down because of my visual impairment constantly.
She made very hard remarks and was very insensitive
and constantly ignored me.
she also talked bad about me behind my back with another teacher who was mean to me also.
so, that really hurts.
so, for me, counselling for 1 year helped me prevent this illness.
I had it for two years, mainly do to family and the lack of friends. After I moved last year I went to counseling and ever since things have been good. Now I just let those who put me down what I think of them, lol.
Troy
man...I had a form of depression, not very much, but it was there--I started taking meds for it, and it's gotten better...but there you go. :)
i still have the depression, but it's mostly anger and depression. i I have rage and pannick attacks, and if they get too out of control i get so angry i just snap. i gave myself a feaver onece without knowing and had to go to the hospitel. still to this very day, i still have these attacks, and as stated in my last post on this topic, if anyone would like to talk about there problems with depression let me know. thx. zack
Well, isn't it so depressing to know there are so many members on the zone with depression?